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Three secrets to self-worth

If you don’t (yet) love yourself as a default setting, or if you don’t (yet) automatically assume that others just can’t wait to fall in love with you, you are not alone.

Most of us don’t (yet).  It is an all-out epidemic — a pandemic — that must be changed.

And to help change it, I’d love to share with you three potent secrets to radiant yet humble self-worth.  May I?  {I thought so.} read full post ››




How to guarantee you’ll feel like a failure

I spent much of the first 30 years of my life trying to succeed, win, be chosen, fix myself, feel special, and beat the odds.  (Sound familiar?)

I would hold up an ideal in my mind (perfect body, ideal business success, a certain financial accomplishment, a model way of mothering or friend-ing, etc.) and then I would bend and contort myself, working through pain and fatigue, and doing anything necessary, to fully morph into that ideal.  (Sound familiar?)

After spending much of my life caught in such madness, however, I developed some pretty surprising perspectives on where that madness comes from and how to change it.  So, onward, shall we?

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Burning up with jealousy

Let’s talk about jealousy, shall we?

That kind of jealousy that burns through you while you are just walking along through your life, doing your best, and minding your own business, and then in waltzes some goddess, maybe you know her, maybe you don’t, and she’s doing that thing that you want so much in your heart of hearts, and doing it with some otherworldly kind of power and grace.

The kind of jealousy that rips out your guts and leaves you feeling like shit, especially since you know you should be gracious and be happy for her and all that.

As crazy as it seems, there IS a way to have another woman’s brilliance light you up rather than dim you down.  There IS a way to use jealousy to affirm your own greatness rather than confirm you are a hopeless mess.

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If Beyonce and Einstein hooked up

Someone recently asked me how to best describe my new book, Feminine Genius: The Provocative Path to Waking Up and Turning On the Wisdom of Being a Woman, and I said Feminine Genius is the book-baby you’d get if Beyonce and Einstein hooked up.”

Feminine

I don’t know Beyonce personally (though I surely wish I did)!  But what I see and feel from this diva, singer, and performer is a woman who shows us her strength as well as her softness.  She neither dumbs down nor exploits her sexuality.  She seems as comfortable in her body as with her divinity.  She is as smart as she is sensitive. She isn’t trying to beat out the competition, she is working her ass off for a future in which we can all rise.

This to me is the strength of the feminine.

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How to trust yourself (when you don’t)

Maybe you constantly second-guess yourself.  Maybe you feel “crazy,” that you are your own worst critic.  That you care more what other people think than what YOU think.  That everything you want is probably bad for you.  That there is something intrinsically flawed in you.  That you can’t trust anyone, really, least of all yourself.

But the thing is, you were born trusting yourself.

You reached for what you wanted.  You joyfully assumed you would walk even as you fell down trying ten thousand times.  You took great pleasure from even the simplest things such as the changing shape of a cloud, your own belly button, or the plain cardboard box that the shiny, blinky toy came in.

Then came “the script.”  And then came “the forgetting.”

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