The warning to “get out of your head” (from yourself or someone else) often sounds something like this: Stop thinking so much. Quit over-analyzing. Just enjoy and go with the flow. Be more spontaneous. Go with your gut. Stop over-thinking things. You’re too much in the future and not in the present. Stop dragging your …
the good news in a bad breakup … i don’t mean this in the “every cloud has a silver lining” way. a bad breakup leaves us in a really dark place. which feels bad. and wrong. and like we’ve done something wrong. but even so, inside all that intensity is some really good news. about …
Will you join me? Here’s what I mean …. on this Friday June 19 let’s put our dollars consciously into Black (and Indiginous and People of Color) communities. Juneteenth, June 19 (which this year falls on a Friday) is the oldest nationally celebrated commemoration of the ending of slavery in the United States, when news …
Most of us are familiar with the “easiest” way to grow confidence: you go for it, you work for it, you get it! But I want to introduce you to the “hardest” way to grow confidence, as well. It might be even better than the easiest way, in terms of the quality of confidence it …
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I suspect this article on perfectionism will be useful to bring with you into this holiday season. It comes with a little challenge, too, so I hope you’ll stay with me all the way to the end. Too often, to be a woman alive today means to be obsessed with being “perfect.” Perfect hair, perfect …
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Your body is a temple. I’ve heard that phrase many times before. I have always loved it, but truth be told, I only let it sink in as far as, “Too many French fries just ain’t good for this sacred vessel o’ mine.” Or, “Less complaining, more gratitude.” And, “If this eyeliner blinded the bunny …
Whatever you put on your plate today, make sure to include this. I have a friend, Annie, who believes that certain words we think of as nouns should actually be verbs. Like the word, “woman.” So that instead of being a noun — a static person, place, or thing — the word “woman” should be …
When my son was about two years old, he would often get upset trying to figure out a new toy — like most toddlers (and let’s be honest, most grown-ups) do. One afternoon, both of us seated on the green and blue squares of the playmat, he tried to shove a circle-shaped block into a …
Over thousands and thousands of years — for as long as women have been dependent on others for our food, care, roof-over-our-heads, money, reputation, and personal power — we have learned to see other women as threats. So when someone else has control over the stuff we need, we can very quickly get into competition …
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You know the story, right? When the ocean liner the Titanic hit an iceberg and started going under, obvious panic broke out. Some passengers shoved into lifeboats, some tried to swim for it. Some of the crew went to work trying to fix the hole in the ship, some simply passed out. But the orchestra …
When the ship is sinking, do you bail — or sing? Read More »
