Nearly everyone — if not everyone — I’ve worked with over my 22 years has come to me with the underlying doubt that they are not good enough, not lovable. Nearly everyone, if not everyone. And yet, nearly everyone — in fact, I’d confidently say everyone — that I’ve had the honor of working with …
The person who treated us badly.That we allowed them to treat us badly. The abusive situation.That we let it go on so long. The betrayal.That we didn’t see it coming. The misunderstanding.That we weren’t more patient (or bold, brave, kind, understanding, decisive …). When it comes to the breakup, the breakdown, or the bridge burnt, …
‘I think you have success dysmorphia,’ my friend Ali told me about 8 years ago. Dysmorphia means ‘wrongly shaped.’ It’s a term usually paired with ‘body’ as in ‘body dysmorphia,’ when you look at yourself and see someone wrongly shaped (when actually you’re just right). Unable to see ourselvesas we truly are,we see ourselves onlyas …
One moment, you catch your reflection and think, “Damn, I’m gorgeous!” The next moment or the next hour or the next day, you catch that same reflection and think, “Damn, I’m hideous.” Same reflection, same you. So what’s up with that? And more importantly, how can we spend more time basking in our beauty and …
Dear one, I suspect we all want to clear the chatter so that we can hear our own inner voice of knowing. This is important stuff. Because we want to be able to steer our lives and to make the intractable decisions in life using the true north of our own knowing. But as you know …
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An indigenous people of the Amazon say that humanity is like a bird with two wings, one masculine and one feminine. Obviously, both the masculine and the feminine wings are needed for the bird to be whole, powerful, and to fly as it is meant to. They also say that for far too long, the …
Ah, dear one, Among the top things my clients want — and what humans in general want — is an epic er0tic life. ‘Er0tic’ definitely includes s#x, but our longing for the er*tic is not just about the s*xual, it’s about pleasure, enjoyment, happiness, satisfaction, sensuality, intimacy, and closeness, with a partner as well as with oneself. Put simply, the …
Hello dear one, I would like to give you some ‘good news,’ as it were, when you’re feeling stuck or lost. And there’s a simple exercise for you, toward the end, as well. Read on and/or watch the video version of it: A bit ago on a birthday call, I was describing to my friends …
Allow me to explain why I think Cate Blanchett got it right and women ought to begin trusting our innate feminine genius and looking to our yonis for guidance. A few years back Stephen Colbert did an interview with actor Cate Blanchett. As they talked about the Broadway play she was in, Blanchett explained that …
Allow me to tell you a story about The Sleeping Self. It’s my re-telling of an Edgar Allen Poe story, The Tell-tale Heart, and thus is a touch gruesome for a minute, so be forewarned and bear with me. There was once a woman — we’ll call her Jane — who was probably a lot like you and me: …
