Dearest one, There’s stuck. And then there’s a particular kind of stuck that brilliant, hard-working, soulful women experience. I recently took a slow moment out of my day and thought back over the last 20 years of working with clients. What were the issues that they were so puzzled about and in pain over that brought them through …
See if you can relate to these 3 different (all-too-common) scenarios … In them, the patterns that drive self-doubt are born. Scenario #1: Let’s say, when child #1 was young, she could sense how overwhelmed or distracted her caregivers were. She figured out that if she was ‘good,’ didn’t have any needs, didn’t speak up, and …
In my late twenties, I had been on a years-long headlong dive into personal growth and transformation. I had started my private practice. I was making more money than I had as a dancer (and often waitress). I was on my way to healing body dysmorphia and my disordered relationship with food. But I had …
Oh dear one, You know those parts of you that you might wish away? Perhaps you’ve longed for a scalpel to cut those parts out? A pill to take them away? A mantra, yoga pose, or 40-day cleanse to help you rid yourself of them once and for all? What if there was another wayto be with …
Your own voice. Everyone has it. And yet it can be one of the hardest things to locate in a busy, modern existence. And as a woman who has been trained to listen and attend to everyone else before herself. Everyone needs it. So we know what we want, what we don’t, what’s good for us …
Dear one, I’m losing beauty privilege. And youth privilege. Some health privilege, too. Don’t get me wrong. I’m good with it. I feel radiant and powerful. I look great. I am the most settled in who I am as I have ever been in my life — especially compared to the times in my life when I …
Dear one, This is for my fellow perfectionists, who are also dreamers & visionaries and who have something to give the world. We perfectionists learn, as a way to earn love and acceptance, to follow the rules and get it right. Our feelings and longings fall to the wayside. Coloring inside the lines and putting on a good …
Oh, hello dear one, In the middle of the pandemic, on a birthday Zoom call (I know you feel me!), I shared with a group of my very wise friends that I could feel as though I was in a biiiiig transition time. Transitioning from one identity to another. From one set of tools to …
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Dear one, For the last two decades, my clients have been bringing me the most impossible, intractable questions. High-stakes questions. Life or death questions. The kinds of questions that will define her future. I was recently thinking about a client I worked with about 15 years ago, who came to me with one such impossible, …
Some wisdom from The Death/Rebirth Cycle … Reading to you from ‘Feminine Genius’ with some wisdom for when we feel two-steps-forward, two-steps back, stuck, or bewildered by what’s coming up … again. “As we align with nature’s cycles, we also align with the intelligence of the natural world. We feel less crazy, flawed, and separate, …
