Hello dear friend,

I will be what you need me to be.

Then you will love me. See me. Stay with me. Make me belong.

This is The Arrangement to which I will devote my entire soul and self.

But first, I must become a world-class detective for what you need.

I will track your every mood and movement like a bloodhound.

I will leave myself and focus on you.

I will shape-shift and twist so I fit to you, perfectly.

I will shrink and dim in order to stay out of your spotlight, so you might bloom and grow.

I will give, attune, and attend—always and forever.

I will not worry when I run dry; in fact, I will be proud of being so selfless, empty, needless.

I won’t remind you of The Arrangement. I will wait for you to notice. I will wait until the end of time, if that is what it takes.

I will wait and hope that you see me.

But I am terrified that when you do, you will see that I am not nearly enough, terribly not enough, and you will leave. 

So I will be what you need me to be
in hopes that you will someday see me. 
But I will also hope that you never really see me,
so that you will never leave me.

If this sounds familiar, come close, my friend. It’s an ouchy one. I know it well.

This is The Trance of
I Will Be What You Need Me To Be 

This is the main Trance that clients bring to me, and that we dismantle, transform, and reconfigure. 

(This is the very same Trance that I have myself have learned to identify, dismantle, transform, and reconfigure.)

I have five spots opening soon for 1:1 transformational coaching (AKA Trance-Breaking), which I’ll share more about below.

This Trance is hard to see.
And slippery.

This is partly because all of us are, but girls and women especially, socialized to give, attune, and attend. Always and forever.

We are rewarded when we leave ourselves and focus on them.

We are considered a success, if we become utterly and completely entranced by The Trance of I Will Be What You Need Me To Be.

The Trance
that we are encouraged 
to devote our entire lives to
is the very same Trance 
that is killing us.

It’s pretty impossible to know you’re in a Trance when you’re in a Trance. You just think it’s How Things Are. 

So, a client might not come to me announcing their trance, but they would come with things like:

• Not being able to ask for what you need.
• Not knowing what you need.
• Not being able to receive help and support.
• Tend to ‘lose yourself’ in relationships (familial, work, romantic, friendship, etc)
• Feeling pretty lost if you’re not able to serve, help, support, and give.
• Feeling fear—maybe terror—pretty much all the time (without knowing exactly why).
• It’s hard to relax or sit your ass down for a moment.
• Realizing you know how to give the ‘pleasing’ answer but not always the honest answer.
• Fully and completely to the marrow of your bones exhausted.

How do I help break you out of your trance?

How do I help you dismantle, transform, and reconfigure that Trance so you can get on with living a beautiful, meaningful, lit-up life?

How do I help you keep all the talents you honed in your Trance, but also get free of the Trance, so you can:

• Connect to yourself.
• Keep yourself safe.
• Trust yourself.
• Discern the voice of inner knowing from fear, self-loathing, or greed.
• Know what you need.
• Get un-exhausted.
• Say the true thing (not the pleasing thing).
• Say goodbye to The Arrangement, so you can just Be Yourself (even in a relationship).

My breakthrough methodology, honed over the last 24 years—along with bespoke skills, tools, and support—allow us to elegantly rewire self-limiting beliefs and free you from persistent patterns. 

My clients consistently report
that more transforms for them
in a few sessions
than has in multiple months or years
with other modalities.

So, your first step, friend, is to bring me your Trance.

1. Book a (gratis) Exploratory Session.

This can be either 30 mins if you are pretty sure you’re ready to work together but just want a few questions answered or 75 mins if you want more time to get to know me and how we’d work together.

Either way, we’ll dive into your goals and challenges, give you a felt sense of what our work together would be like, and get all your questions answered.

If we both feel like we are a great fit, I’ll share our ‘roadmap’ of what we’ll work on, how sessions lay out, what’s included, and pricing options.

If we start our work together before November 15, 2025, I’ll also offer you an end-of-year thank you discount.

2. Then, we dive in and work together in either a three or six-month program.

(Yes a single Breakthrough Session option is available, as well).

3. Our first session is a 2-hour deep dive, where we map out your transformational journey from where you are to all you want to become.

In order to do extraordinary work, I want to know the whole of you … not just your roadblocks, persistent patterns, limiting beliefs, goals, and desires — all of that, yes! — but also your unique history, family background, wounds, gifts, identities, and life journey.

4. After that, we meet twice a month for up to 85 minutes per session.

Sometimes we’ll be doing breakthrough-style Belief Re-Patterning sessions (internal rewiring) and other times Coaching (actions, practices & strategy).

Belief Re-Patterning allows us to work with the unconscious parts of you, shifting the invisible patterns that create stuckness, pain & confusion. These changes ripple naturally and elegantly into your conscious life.

Coaching allows us to work with the conscious parts of you, actualizing in your external world the changes you’ve made internally. These actions, practices & strategies in turn reach back into your unconscious, creating a loop of self-trust & momentum.

I also support you with:

• Hand-curated resources, including exercises, materials, and supplemental training classes specific to your journey.
• Support between sessions via Voxer, text, or email. Pick your fav app, and we’ll stay connected if you’d like—with a 24-hour response time in the workweek.
• Access to my online classes, including Feminine Genius At Work, Mining For Gold in a Dark Night of the Soul, and Embodiment Meditations, as needed.
  

It’s good and powerful work. Work I am honored to do over this last almost quarter century!

I look forward to making miracles
and breaking Trances with you.

So, here’s to you friend, and to the sweet sound a Trance makes as it breaks.

With rigor and freedom,