When I’m down, distracted, unclear, and unsure of what’s next. I ask myself, “What would Frida do?” If you don’t know her yet, Frida Kahlo is/was a fiercely creative, greatly influential Mexican painter and activist. I’m not sure how true it was to Frida’s actual lived experience, but the movie “Frida,” directed by Julie Taymor, …
I’m going to bet that one part of you knows you’re a miraculous, phenomenal badass. And yet, another part of you — perhaps loudest and most consistent — feels like a failure or a fraud, regardless of how many extra hours you put in or how close to ‘perfect’ you come. You probably likely tell …
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I remember when I first read these marvelous lines by Mary Oliver: “You do not have to be good.You do not have to walk on your kneesfor a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves.” I was 24 years old, in a …
But isn’t this the opposite of what we’ve been taught? Especially as girls and women we’re taught to say NO to food, to savoring, to slowing down, and to pleasures that have nothing to do with buying or acquiring anything — NO to that which nourishes and feeds us. At the same time, we are …
Nearly everyone — if not everyone — I’ve worked with over my 22 years has come to me with the underlying doubt that they are not good enough, not lovable. Nearly everyone, if not everyone. And yet, nearly everyone — in fact, I’d confidently say everyone — that I’ve had the honor of working with …
The person who treated us badly.That we allowed them to treat us badly. The abusive situation.That we let it go on so long. The betrayal.That we didn’t see it coming. The misunderstanding.That we weren’t more patient (or bold, brave, kind, understanding, decisive …). When it comes to the breakup, the breakdown, or the bridge burnt, …
‘I think you have success dysmorphia,’ my friend Ali told me about 8 years ago. Dysmorphia means ‘wrongly shaped.’ It’s a term usually paired with ‘body’ as in ‘body dysmorphia,’ when you look at yourself and see someone wrongly shaped (when actually you’re just right). Unable to see ourselvesas we truly are,we see ourselves onlyas …
One moment, you catch your reflection and think, “Damn, I’m gorgeous!” The next moment or the next hour or the next day, you catch that same reflection and think, “Damn, I’m hideous.” Same reflection, same you. So what’s up with that? And more importantly, how can we spend more time basking in our beauty and …
Dear one, I suspect we all want to clear the chatter so that we can hear our own inner voice of knowing. This is important stuff. Because we want to be able to steer our lives and to make the intractable decisions in life using the true north of our own knowing. But as you know …
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An indigenous people of the Amazon say that humanity is like a bird with two wings, one masculine and one feminine. Obviously, both the masculine and the feminine wings are needed for the bird to be whole, powerful, and to fly as it is meant to. They also say that for far too long, the …
