Nearly everyone — if not everyone — I’ve worked with over my 22 years has come to me with the underlying doubt that they are not good enough, not lovable. Nearly everyone, if not everyone. And yet, nearly everyone — in fact, I’d confidently say everyone — that I’ve had the honor of working with …
The person who treated us badly.That we allowed them to treat us badly. The abusive situation.That we let it go on so long. The betrayal.That we didn’t see it coming. The misunderstanding.That we weren’t more patient (or bold, brave, kind, understanding, decisive …). When it comes to the breakup, the breakdown, or the bridge burnt, …
‘I think you have success dysmorphia,’ my friend Ali told me about 8 years ago. Dysmorphia means ‘wrongly shaped.’ It’s a term usually paired with ‘body’ as in ‘body dysmorphia,’ when you look at yourself and see someone wrongly shaped (when actually you’re just right). Unable to see ourselvesas we truly are,we see ourselves onlyas …
