Waking Up In The Dark Night Of Divorce
The Radical Road to Breaking, Awakening, and Self-Reclamation
Welcome, my friend. I'm so glad you're here.
I wrote this book for women*
on the knife's edge of heartbreak.
Not after it. Not over it.
Not yet putting the pieces
back together.
Mid-rip, mid-falling-apart.
So dark it feels likea dark night of the soul.
I wrote this book for you, at the moment you most need:
- Guidance to get through the ordeal (not go around it)
- To break the painful repeating patterns
- To reclaim what got lost in the relationship
- Tools for composting crap into gold
- Stories from real-life folks who made it out not just alive — but aligned, awake, and lit up.
When You Pre-Order The Book
Two beautiful book bonuses await you:
Purchase ONE book & receive:
Waking Up Workbook: practices & exercises w/ space to write, draw, doodle; companion to the print or audio book
Purchase THREE books & receive:
Workbook + Book Club w/ LiYana: Waking Up Together, three weeks of book readings, practices, discussion, connection & Q+A
Bonus #1
Workbook: companion to Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce.
All the practices & exercises, beautifully laid out for you with space to write, make notes, draw, doodle, and paste in pictures.
As you read or listen to the book, do your soul-work in this workbook.
Bonus with purchase of one book.
BUT LIYANA, WHAT WOULD I DO WITH THREE BOOKS?
Aside from getting the Workbook & Book Club bonuses, here's what you can do with three books:
- The first is for you: to read and be fed.
- The second is for a friend: who could really use it.
- The third is for a stranger: be an angel & leave the book on a bus, train, hotel lobby, or Airbnb for someone to find in a kind moment of kismet.
How To Claim Your Book Bouses
Let's get you some goodies
STEP ONE:
Order your book(s) from your favorite online or brick-and-mortar bookstore (print, electronic, or audiobook):
STEP TWO:
Come back here, share your receipt(s) with me, and your bonuses will await you in your email inbox:
#1: WAKING UP WORKBOOK
Companion for the book
All the practices from Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce, beautifully laid out for you with space to write, make notes, draw, doodle, and paste in pictures.
As you read or listen to the book, do your soul-work in this workbook.
Bonus w/ purchase of 1 book
#2: WAKING UP TOGETHER
Book Club with LiYana Silver
Once a week, for three weeks, we'll join from wherever we are. I'll read from the book. We'll practice, discuss, connect & do Q+A, together.
Thursdays 6-7:30pm ET USA
Oct 22 & 29; Nov 5 2026
Bonus w/ purchase of 3 books
About LiYana Silver
Relationship coach and author of Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce and Feminine Genius, I work with women reckoning with relationship loss so complex it feels like a dark night of the soul.
For over 24 years, through my private practice, books, retreats, and online courses, I have guided individuals, couples, and groups to reclaim what they lost in the relationship, break repeating patterns, and emerge awake, aligned, and lit-up.
My work integrates my certifications as Master Practitioner of Transformational NLP, Holistic Health Coach, and Yoga Teacher.
I draw on my training in Relational Life Therapy, childhood developmental psychology, emotional literacy, compassionate communication, human sexuality, body-based meditation, and somatic trauma resolution.
A former professional dancer and lover of painting with oils, I live in Asheville, NC with my son, our two cats, and a frankly impressive number of houseplants.
It is my honor to help you through (not around) the darkest, hardest passages.
Who you become in The Dark is who rebuilds your life, luminous with love.
Praise for Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce
Words from fellow wordsmiths & authors
"Few soul-guides have dared to harness perennial wisdom teachings to help us navigate one of the most excruciating yet common experiences of our lives: the end of an intimate relationship.
In this accessible, lyrical and practical book, LiYana Silver engages her considerable skills of intelligence, insight, tenderness and even humor to connect us to something luminous at the heart of our heartbreak.
She does not suggest that what got you here is good news; rather, she meets you in the darkness and begins to point out the fruits that can only ripen when your soul gives up trying to solve the human predicament.
As a translator of the 16th century mystical masterpiece, Dark Night of the Soul, I applaud LiYana Silver’s invitation to enter the radiant darkness of divorce and allow it to have its transformative way with you.
Love itself is waiting on the other side of this ferocious initiation."
Mirabai Starr
Translator | Dark Night of the Soul
Author | Wild Mercy and Ordinary Mysticism
"This book is a fiercely compassionate and beautifully written guide that helps us turn toward our heartbreak and allow it to become a true initiation in love.
As a fellow explorer of dark nights of the soul, I appreciate LiYana for being unafraid to go deep. I found myself—and many of my friends and clients—in several of these stories. This book powerfully connects us to our common humanity, helping us make sense of our own journeys and find the strength to move through them toward the gold on the other side of the painful rites of passage that life inevitably brings.
Most spiritually oriented seekers understand, at least in theory, that we must not bypass our most difficult pains and challenges. But LiYana shows us, through practices and real-life examples, how to move from theory into action and engage in the demanding yet deeply fruitful work of transformation.
Often, the ordeal itself is the opportunity for transformation, divinely designed for our particular soul's journey. This book is that map."
Britta Eskey
Author | Initiations in Love
"Even though divorce is the thread that holds the book together, it's really about being human: losing your footing, finding yourself again.
Anyone who's experienced heartbreak, loss, or a dark night of the soul will find something meaningful here. It's soulful, honest, and incredibly generous.
LiYana has a grounded, compassionate voice: you feel like she's walking beside you, not telling you what to do. She shares practical tips, thoughtful exercises, and spiritual wisdom that help you move through your own healing.
I finished it feeling inspired, seen, and reminded that even our hardest chapters can become the beginning of something beautiful."
Ama
Spiritual Guide & Life Coach
"This book came to me exactly when I needed it.
What really landed for me was the idea of emotional states such as depression, anxiety and self-doubt as messengers. It's so heartening and empowering to realize that these emotions will shift when we ask the feelings: 'What are you actually trying to tell me?'
LiYana writes with an uplifting tone without ever invalidating the seriousness of our grief and despair. Every word pulses with her wisdom and strength, and you feel as if you've been taken by the hand by a mother-sister-friend: a wise woman who has suffered the dark night of divorce herself. And here she is, on the other end of it, gracious and in one piece, with her capacity for joy intact."
Maya Fowler
Author | The Elephant in the Room and Patagonia
"This book is nectar for people thirsting for connection to truth right now.
The dark night is a recognition we've outgrown something. It is the process by which we ripen and mature into the next phase of our life, work, and identity. It is always a maturing. A tempering. Some would call it a curing.
Though I’ve been through many dark nights and know there will be more in the future, I would not give them up. They ushered in self-knowledge and self-trust I wouldn’t have found any other way.
LiYana has written us a precise, powerful guide. Please get it, read it, and be cured."
Meghna Majmudar
Author of The Liberated Leader | Executive Coach
"When life takes us on a hard path, it’s counter-instinctual to lean into what hurts and scares us, but in my experience that's where we can find the greatest treasures.
In Buddhist teaching mythology, the Peacock's beautiful feathers come from digesting poison. I appreciate how LiYana has brought this idea forward and made it both more understandable and more actionable for readers. This book draws from the same core as Tibetan Vajrayana Buddhism and kindly yet fiercely points us in the direction of a profound realization: we are strong enough to access our own fortitude and cut through the hardest parts of our crises — and there we unearth our gems of self-esteem, self-kindness, self-understanding, and spiritual growth."
Shadi M.
Consultant to Non-profit Organizations | Traveller on the Spiritual Path
"With wisdom, candor, and remarkable emotional precision, LiYana Silver explores one of life's most painful transitions. She neither minimizes the devastation of divorce nor rushes toward redemption. Instead, she illuminates the difficult terrain between an ending and whatever comes next.
Sarah Ramey
Author | The Lady's Handbook for Her Mysterious Illness
"LiYana doesn't let you skip the hard parts, and somehow, you're grateful for it.
She writes from experience, not theory, and that difference is everything. She doesn't position herself above the wreckage, pointing down with a clipboard. She's in it with you—steady, soulful, unflinching—walking alongside as you face the self you've outgrown to meet the one ready to begin.
Alexandra Beller
Artistic Director & Author | The Anatomy of Art
"Do not mistake 'Waking up in the Dark Night of Divorce' for a self-help book.
It is a powerful alchemical manuscript and LiYana is the way-shower holding the lantern as you navigate the inner work necessary to reclaim, ignite, and remember your radiant soul.
LiYana Silver’s book is the essential guide for women brave enough to step into the shadows and reclaim their light."
Janell Flores Bolte
Author of Death, A Love Story | Soul Coach & Teacher
"When you find yourself in the dark night, LiYana Silver is the one you want by your side.
Although you might not be able to see, listen to her voice as she assures you that there is a pathway through, one that she’s mapped, walked, and knows intimately.
With zero sugar-coating, she offers fiercely compassionate, step-by-step guidance that will walk you into the light of new life again."
Lisa Schrader
Coach, Author & Founder | Awakening Shakti
"What LiYana has written for us is a map through the ‘death’ experiences of crushing heartbreak and betrayal, all our future taken from us; a way to alchemize the ick and let it initiate us in love.
We feel not worthy of love because love left us. We think there's something even worse inside of us than what we've witnessed outside of us. We are terrified of feeling and looking inside.
But this book gives us a way to feel, to look, to connect with ourselves. What we find will take our breath away: love itself looking back at us — an unshakable place to stand, a mini oasis in the chaos.
If you have the desire to not just survive this devastation but to heal and unwind and expand, to thrive and come alive, more resilient than ever — read on. Read it all. Read it now."
Dr Saida Désilets
Author | Desire
Co-Founder of the Embodied Love University
"This book will hold your hand as you navigate the dark night of divorce.
Its sentences jump out with a visceral jolt. The somatic practices at the end of each chapter are especially helpful, allowing you to integrate the fullness and intensity of all you have experienced. I wish it had been written three years ago, when I needed its medicine for myself.
LiYana Silver has a unique gift to transmute all that she learns through the most excruciating initiations, so that we may experience guidance and reassurance when we are lost and terrified and find ourselves descending into the dark.
Thank you, LiYana, for shining the light, nice and bright, helping us find our way back home!"
Rachael Jayne
Author | What the Horses Told Me
Retreat Facilitator & Soul Purpose Life Coach
I'm so glad to be here with you, my friend.
Let this heartbreak remake you,
* I define ‘woman’ as anyone who claims or is reckoning with that identity, as well as those who experience misogyny — the devaluing of girls, women & traits marked as feminine.